Be it good or bad memories, all of them have the potential to hurt us if we let them. Memories are what remains in us from our past. Due to nostalgia, many cling to their precious memories be it good or bad. Memories of what made them into who they are today. However, as much as they love it or hate it, memories are something to be feared. Seemingly pure and unchanging, they are simply the moments we lived in recreated by our own minds. Impure and inaccurate. Sweet nonetheless. Sometimes bitter.
No matter what memories we may have, they can hurt us. Bad memories can inflict people with trauma while good memories can cause people to despair when they know that they cannot recreate those experiences once more.
However, why should we let memories take such a drastic hold on our lives? Why do we choose to remember everything to every last detail as if changing them just the tiniest bit would have made things better? Just because we lived through certain experiences does not mean that we have to remember them and agonise over them. All we need to internalise is the lessons learnt from each experience to advance as human beings. If we simply forget about the rest of the details, we can learn to truly live, to the fullest, in the present without being chained down by memories of our past.
After all, wouldn’t you agree that the past is something that we cannot change? The reality we live in is not so kind as to allow for things such as time travel. Even if it did, it would just make things excessively complicated. Decisions were made in our past, some that we regret, some which we are glad we made. In the end, they cannot be changed, we simply have to live through the path that our past selves created for us and press forward. All we need to do is continually look forward, taking into control what we have control over, the present. The present in which we live in. The present which is constantly changing.
Do you often think about the past? Or are you also the type of person who simply lives in the present, focusing on the problems in front of you rather than the failures behind you? Do you disagree when I say that memories should be forgotten? Perhaps because you use your memories to strengthen your resolve to move forward? Happy memories to remind you of what could be in the future once again if you work hard and bad memories to remind you of how much you have been through and still made it here? Leave all your thoughts and opinions in the comments below 🙂