Many of us have likely faced a multitude of situations whereby you feel and think one thing and the next moment, you feel and think completely differently about the same matter. It is the same for me. While each of us may go through the same experiences, we get awfully frustrated when others experience the same.
For example, when I went to a fancy Chinese restaurant for my grandmother’s birthday celebration, my mother commented upon looking at the menu that I would have barely anything to eat (since I’m not really a fan of fancy Chinese food). She even suggested that I just order Macdonald’s after dinner. However, as the food came in one by one, my mother kept prompting me to eat the food served despite the fact that the portions were small enough to be served to everyone but me should I choose not to eat.
From supporting me not eating, to trying to get me to eat is the main contradiction here. I was slightly annoyed since it was the end of the week at the time and I was feeling tired from the week.
However, the very next day, while my mother was waiting for the milk tea she ordered, she wanted to go walk at someplace else nearby for a while. At first, I immediately objected saying that she need not be so impatient. After my initial response, I thought about it for some time and soon after revised my opinion. I told her that she could go walk around while I wait to collect her milk tea.
These are all just simple contradictions that also reveal my being a picky eater at fancy restaurants and an impulsive responder. However, those are not the main point of this post. What I want to get across is the fact that our thoughts and feelings on certain matters are bound to change as time passes.
As time passes, we dwell more on the same situations and start to form differing thoughts and opinions. Soon, whatever you said before regarding the situation turns into a lie despite being the truth when first told. It is important for us to be able to swallow our pride and share our new take on the situation with others even if we were in strong opposition to the same people moments before.
There will always be contradictions between our past and present thoughts and feelings. What is important is that we recognise what has changed and share them with those that matter. We also need to recognise and be understanding of others who have behaved in contradicting manners.
Have you ever felt like you are a walking contradiction? Thoughts and feelings jumbled up till you cannot fully comprehend them, much less explain them?
Perhaps the contradictions you face are much more troubling then what I have mentioned here. You feel and think multiple things at the same time. For example, you feel that you want to be left alone, yet you want someone to lean on. You want to study hard to get good grades, but you also want to just give up after how hard you’ve already tried.
Your logic and emotions contradict each other.
As a result, you know not whether to follow your emotions and force your logic into action. For me, I was simply incapable of tying down my emotions with logic. All I could do was act however the way that came most naturally and dwell on the consequences after… so that I could either reaffirm my thoughts or my emotions. Or perhaps find a way to do both at the same time.
Leave your thoughts that you can muster in the comments below. 🙂