I know that the title is rather contradictory, but let me explain.
As I was idling in the car my mother was driving to send me to where I needed to go, I realised that I often compare myself to others. To people who are worse off and better off than I am.
Whenever I think of anyone who has it worse than me and how fortunate I am in comparison, rather than feeling grateful for what I have, I end up feeling guilty. Even though, if you think about it, it really is not something to be guilty about. Just because I’m fortunate to have been born into a well-to-do family, does not mean that I should be faulted for it. For one, it is not something I can control. Secondly, there really is nothing wrong with simply being better off. To feel grateful for what I have, would be the more respectable choice. Even though, in the end, my feelings really do not matter much because the fact is not something I can change.
In my opinion, to be “fortunate” and live in a well-to-do family, is likely to result in us lacking something. Although the truth in my statement may vary depending on the person, this is my personal take on the matter.
Being fortunate strips away any opportunity to experience the things that the “less fortunate” experience. Hardships. I’m not saying that people who live in well-to-do households are free of hardships, in fact, I know that is far from the truth. However, the hardships I’m talking about is the hardships of getting by. We are unable to experience the struggle to just get by, to survive. Being blessed with sufficient money and support to do whatever we wish to do, we are unable to feel the weight of life itself. Instead, we are bothered by emotional struggles and social relationships.
“If we are not acknowledged by those around us, then there is no point in us living.”
A frightening conclusion that many youths have probably come to. Had they grown up solely on their hard work and individual effort, they would have not lacked a sense of self that has been tirelessly built up through multiple hardships. Or perhaps even then, they would still feel guilty. Having been supported all their lives, if anything, those who were born more “fortunate”, feel like nothing more than a burden. Especially those that struggle to succeed in life even with the support of their friends and family.
To have the emotional and financial support of those around you, you end up lacking any viable excuse for your failures. If you had so much support, that other people lacked, and yet still failed. How could you stand to face others? Especially those who are not the source of your support? Sure, you may have the support of those close to you, but those onlookers would simply see a spoilt failure who cannot get by even with the help of so many others. Nothing more than a burden.
In the end, even if one is born into a well-to-do family, it does not mean that he or she lacks nothing. In fact, it likely leads to a huge sense of responsibility. Together with the responsibility, comes a lack of independent experiences (not always) as well as a lack of any excuse/reason to fail but one’s own incompetence.
What do you feel you lack? Feel free to share in the comments your thoughts. It’s natural to be lacking. If we do not lack anything, surely then, we would not be considered human.